Once seen as nerdy but harmless innovators, men in tech are now widely regarded as red-pilled Elon Musk wannabes. It’s made getting laid a whole lot harder.

12 points•1vuio0pswjnm7•6 days ago•20 comments•

20 comments

BugsJustFindMe6 days ago
> "23-year-old Gary ... explained to a woman why he took an engineering job at Palantir... $250,000 salary would allow him to help pay off his parents’ mounting medical bills, he explained."

> "that line about the medical debt. His parents don’t have any, nor are they ill."

Area man who builds oppression machinery and who is a liar is sad that other people are turned off by both of those things.

Also, lying to someone to convince them to have sex with you means you don't care about consent. There isn't a bigger turn-off in the world than that.

1vuio0pswjnm76 days ago
Alternative to archive.ph

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bell-cot6 days ago
Back in the late Vietnam (War) days, you might not score with the ladies by talking about your highly-paid job at a munitions company, or making Agent Orange.

And the leaders of those industries really weren't in the same league as many of today's top tech zillionaires, for public perception of being alpha sociopaths.

hungryhobbit6 days ago
Why does anyone submit paywalled links to Hacker News without including a paywall bypass link?

It's like "here, everyone read this interesting thing ... oh wait 99% of you can't read it, ha ha".

BugsJustFindMe6 days ago
> 99% of you can't read it

Can't is a strong word. https://archive.ph/IY18i

hungryhobbit6 days ago
See, it's so simple to provide.
bell-cot6 days ago
Try a browser that makes it easier to disable js.
alpaca1286 days ago
Nowadays it's not expected that a website loads paywalled content. This one is an exception, I managed to get the full text by entering reading mode and reloading (firefox)
onion2k6 days ago
It's entirely reasonable for women (and men) to choose partners they want to be around. It's not about money, or career choices. It's about the fact that being around people who are diametrically opposed to your world view just isn't fun.

The problem is that 'tech bro' types want to date left-leaning, idealistic women rather than the much more suitable career-oriented, right-wing women who share their outlook. It's really hard to date people outside of your world view because they don't find you attractive.

You don't get to have all the money and status of a well-paying tech job, and also date people who don't find money and status attractive.

This isn't complicated.

hoytschermerhrn6 days ago
You're getting downvoted because of the asumption that left-leaning women are not career-oriented.

Everyone has skills & interests (tech, building things, sales, marketing, etc.) and everyone needs to survive (rent, mortage, food, etc.)..so why in the world would you assume that these things are only the domain of the right?

onion2k6 days ago
I wouldn't assume that. Left-leaning people want careers and a good quality of life of course, but generally ones that don't come at the cost of breaking down society or killing the planet. When I say 'career-oriented' I mean 'people who put their career first'. Other people want a career, but it's not necessarily what's driving their left decisions.

Tech bros who put their personal gain ahead of everything else (other people, society, privacy, the environment ,etc) need to realise that people who don't think that way won't be attracted to them, so they should look for partners who are. I've worked with plenty of tech bros who want all the money, status, and prospects of founding a unicorn, and who are happy to sacrifice all of society's good parts to get there under the guise of 'disrupting an industry', and yet have no clue why the cute hippy UX designer who goes on environmental protests at the weekend has zero interest in dating them. They think the money and wealth means people will overlook their lack of ethics, or even lack of interest in ethics.

The only people who will are the career-oriented, right wing ones. People are generally attracted to people who are a bit like themselves. It's a cliche, but cliches are usually cliches because we see them a lot.

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